February 10, 2004
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Well, more bad news really so you can skip this entry if you like, I won’t mind… no really I won’t!
The Boyf went to the hospital on Sunday and they took his mother down a peg or two, medication-wise and she was concious and aware that he was there. she couldn’t speak because of the ventilator but through eye signals she managed to express her delight at seeing him. He went back to the hospital in the evening with all the family and after a rest she was again able to spend some time with them, he was obviously still upset but pleased that she knows he was there. Yesterday she again was able to communicate and she was able to scribble notes for them all. She told them that she is ready to go and that she wants to be cremated but she wants a white coffin (she has always had a Princess Diana obssession!).
Today was the day that they took her off the ventilator, everyone including the doctors said that it was time. The Boyf. told me that they were warned that once she came off the machines she would probably go downhill very quickly and that there was a chance her lungs would just collapse and she’d go straight away. He phoned me this afternoon and told me that they took her off the machine and that she was actually rallying a bit. Her blood pressure was still massively off the scale but she was able to talk to them at last. He was so happy yet aware that she could go at any time. The family spent the morning talking to each other and, I guess, saying goodbye as no one least of all them had any idea how long she will last. the doctors say it could be hours, days or perhaps even longer. I told the boyf. that at least he had had an opportunity denied to many people – the chance to be with someone you love and a chance to say all the things that need to be said so you don’t spend the rest of your life wishing you’d had the chance to say them.
I got a text message at 7.00ish tonight to say that she is now fading fast and that it doesn’t look like she’s going to last the night, although f she manages to last till midnight on Wednesday she’ll die on the same date that she was born. How’s that for symmetry?
I hope that all of you who have parents still alive take the time today/tonight to ring them up and tell them that you love them very much. G’night all.
Comments (2)
So sorry to hear about your b/f mother maybe passing away very soon.
I only wish I could ring up both parents and say that I love them but I think they know that anyway as I think about them everyday.
hugs to you both….his mother is lucky to have such loving eyes watching her as she moves to the next place..